I was resentful once when he said

Him: Omg. I've seen you grow so much.

Him: Because you used to speak to so and so at the in the morning and now you realize how wrong that is.

Me: you're wrong.
Me: there's nothing wrong with speaking on the telephone at 3 in the morning.
Me: it's not worth fighting with you about it.

It's not growth. It's navigating your circumstances.